For the first time in my life. I looked in the mirror told my self 'I love you' I felt very weird. awkward. I wanted to stop but I kept at it. If I don't love myself, I can't love anyone else.
Lately, I find myself eating the things that I have never had in a long time. I bought a plain yogurt the other day. It was so strange. I very rarely ever buy yogurt. yet alone plain yogurt. I bought one of those medium size one. I don't know why. I just had the urge. About week and a half, I found myself eating egg and toast in a car on the way to work. That was the only time I did that on my own.
Relationship is a place where I go to share. Relationship is a place to give, not to get. If I start keeping track of what I gave and got. It becomes a transaction, not a relationship. The main purpose of relationship is to magnify human experience. Relationship is tricky. It is a vehicle. it is more fragile than raw egg. Relationship gives greatest joy of life and pain that it loses meaning of life.
If the relationship is not growing, then it is done. It must constantly improve. There is no shortcut. Seeking growth will carve a pathway to sculpt the soul and mind and eventually something deep, extraordinary relationship.
Be honest with myself. Be healthy.
Learn from and Relate to Sigmund Freud, sucking on Cigar while teaching oral fixation. sometimes cigar is just a cigar. Don't make up things in my head. Learn to ask quality questions
"What is this MEAN?"
what meaning do I attach to?
come up with positive meaning as many as negative meanings.
don't stack negative meanings only.
Showing negative emotions only pushes her away because she can't relate to me. balance it in my head. do not assume the worst because then I will injure the relationship. attacking my own ship, my own team mate.
Do I want to be right or do I want to be loved? what is most important in relationship.
Empowering meaning and master of meaning is about responding with both negative and positive emotion.
If express negativity upon you. I am teaching you that calling me equals pain. it only creates bigger gap between us
What is my ideal relationship? Who was I today? make the day to be a victory. Quality of life is the direct proportion to the relationships that I create.
Universal Purpose of Relationship is? Magnify human experience. Experiencing on my own is phenomenal but sharing that with someone who cares about it is exponential.
connection of spirit, challenge, variety, communicate, to share, to grow, to understand, to experience,
community is not about dumping data to someone. It is about giving and sharing. There is a life. If I am not sharing, then I am not in a relationship.
Having edge over you, threats, hitting your weak spot, only make you feel insecure, associate bad feelings that you do not want in your life. it becomes control mode than relationship.
expand my ability to enjoy life. facing pain is inevitable. giving me uncertainty will always be there.
Come to the relationship with open mind, new set of possibilities.
Relationship is about unity. it's about how we move forward with each other.
I must make a decision which emotion is going to be more dominant in my relationship. Knowing that this is a place that I go to give, not to get.
No rules. Do not enforce rules on us. Rules do get broken. You know its true with me. No rules. Because if I break a rule, you are in reaction and therefore you will be unhappy. there is a better way. Its time for you to open up. We both are nervous, maybe afraid. One foot at a time,
first step toward becoming a good listener is caring and eye contact. Listening to you is part of joy. Living this life. What is a life without sharing? We are sharing every piece of us. I want to hear everything. Nothing is tedious, I want to hear all the mundane things you did today as well as how you felt about them. We are constantly changing and adopting everyday. we can't describe who we are but through our actions, by knowing and understanding our motive for actions and feelings afterwards explains who we are and why we do what we do. I never get tired of it. I'm sorry if I made you feel like I did not want to listen. I was full of myself. Lack of respect for the world. got too cocky of meaning of life.
we are all independent individuals. what we attract and get attracted is deep within us.
ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS: ask this question
'If I want to make that person feel completely loved by me, what would I do?'
tell you how great you are. big smile on my face. Tell you great things I did too. Connect with you. before that, connect with myself first.
For me to commit to this, I must give it a meaning.
asking quality questions get you quality answers which gets you quality life.
need to connect and love. certainty and uncertainty. significant.
no sharing shuts things down.
Dishonesty closes the door.
why not always be happy...There will always be bad things happening in life might as well just smile be happy right:) -Alicia Spalding
Happiness is attitude -Lindsey Wilson
What is the most important factor for having a quality relationship with someone else?
SELECTION - selecting the qualities of you need in a relationship.
Phases in relationship.
1. honeymoon
2. deep love
3. questioning
Phase 4? both people share similar nature that compliment each other:belief, values and goals. it is not a picture perfect. It is acceptance of each other for who they are. each other do not complete each other, compliment. This is absolute trust and honesty in each other. commitment for each other.
What I want in partner is commitment and certainty. Then why do I desire for uncertainty in my life? have I been saying it all along without believing in it? What uncertainty do I really desire?
Stress is driven by fear. Human being's Primary Fear: I am not enough. I won't be loved.
I love you because...
You know how to make someone feel loved not just by saying "you are great" but saying reasons for greatness.
You are strong.
You know how to survive. You started this long time ago. You are used to it.
You know how to strive
You have a good heart
You are a good person
You are ambitious
You aspire to be different.
You smile
You are not insecure about your physical attributes that you can't change.
You fight back against the challenge.
You love your parents and happy with them.
You are honest with yourself
You know what is important
You strive to be better
You learn your lesson
You are adaptable
You can change
You can make a change
You can feel guilt
Lately, I find myself eating the things that I have never had in a long time. I bought a plain yogurt the other day. It was so strange. I very rarely ever buy yogurt. yet alone plain yogurt. I bought one of those medium size one. I don't know why. I just had the urge. About week and a half, I found myself eating egg and toast in a car on the way to work. That was the only time I did that on my own.
Relationship is a place where I go to share. Relationship is a place to give, not to get. If I start keeping track of what I gave and got. It becomes a transaction, not a relationship. The main purpose of relationship is to magnify human experience. Relationship is tricky. It is a vehicle. it is more fragile than raw egg. Relationship gives greatest joy of life and pain that it loses meaning of life.
Focus: do it because I want to not because I have to.
Meaning: Everything in life must grow or die.
Be honest with myself. Be healthy.
"What is this MEAN?"
what meaning do I attach to?
come up with positive meaning as many as negative meanings.
don't stack negative meanings only.
Showing negative emotions only pushes her away because she can't relate to me. balance it in my head. do not assume the worst because then I will injure the relationship. attacking my own ship, my own team mate.
Do I want to be right or do I want to be loved? what is most important in relationship.
Empowering meaning and master of meaning is about responding with both negative and positive emotion.
If express negativity upon you. I am teaching you that calling me equals pain. it only creates bigger gap between us
What is my ideal relationship? Who was I today? make the day to be a victory. Quality of life is the direct proportion to the relationships that I create.
Universal Purpose of Relationship is? Magnify human experience. Experiencing on my own is phenomenal but sharing that with someone who cares about it is exponential.
connection of spirit, challenge, variety, communicate, to share, to grow, to understand, to experience,
community is not about dumping data to someone. It is about giving and sharing. There is a life. If I am not sharing, then I am not in a relationship.
Having edge over you, threats, hitting your weak spot, only make you feel insecure, associate bad feelings that you do not want in your life. it becomes control mode than relationship.
expand my ability to enjoy life. facing pain is inevitable. giving me uncertainty will always be there.
Come to the relationship with open mind, new set of possibilities.
Relationship is about unity. it's about how we move forward with each other.
I must make a decision which emotion is going to be more dominant in my relationship. Knowing that this is a place that I go to give, not to get.
No rules. Do not enforce rules on us. Rules do get broken. You know its true with me. No rules. Because if I break a rule, you are in reaction and therefore you will be unhappy. there is a better way. Its time for you to open up. We both are nervous, maybe afraid. One foot at a time,
first step toward becoming a good listener is caring and eye contact. Listening to you is part of joy. Living this life. What is a life without sharing? We are sharing every piece of us. I want to hear everything. Nothing is tedious, I want to hear all the mundane things you did today as well as how you felt about them. We are constantly changing and adopting everyday. we can't describe who we are but through our actions, by knowing and understanding our motive for actions and feelings afterwards explains who we are and why we do what we do. I never get tired of it. I'm sorry if I made you feel like I did not want to listen. I was full of myself. Lack of respect for the world. got too cocky of meaning of life.
we are all independent individuals. what we attract and get attracted is deep within us.
'If I want to make that person feel completely loved by me, what would I do?'
tell you how great you are. big smile on my face. Tell you great things I did too. Connect with you. before that, connect with myself first.
For me to commit to this, I must give it a meaning.
asking quality questions get you quality answers which gets you quality life.
need to connect and love. certainty and uncertainty. significant.
no sharing shuts things down.
Dishonesty closes the door.
why not always be happy...There will always be bad things happening in life might as well just smile be happy right:) -Alicia Spalding
Happiness is attitude -Lindsey Wilson
What is the most important factor for having a quality relationship with someone else?
SELECTION - selecting the qualities of you need in a relationship.
Phases in relationship.
1. honeymoon
2. deep love
3. questioning
Phase 4? both people share similar nature that compliment each other:belief, values and goals. it is not a picture perfect. It is acceptance of each other for who they are. each other do not complete each other, compliment. This is absolute trust and honesty in each other. commitment for each other.
What I want in partner is commitment and certainty. Then why do I desire for uncertainty in my life? have I been saying it all along without believing in it? What uncertainty do I really desire?
Stress is driven by fear. Human being's Primary Fear: I am not enough. I won't be loved.
You know how to make someone feel loved not just by saying "you are great" but saying reasons for greatness.
You are strong.
You know how to survive. You started this long time ago. You are used to it.
You know how to strive
You have a good heart
You are a good person
You are ambitious
You aspire to be different.
You smile
You are not insecure about your physical attributes that you can't change.
You fight back against the challenge.
You love your parents and happy with them.
You are honest with yourself
You know what is important
You strive to be better
You learn your lesson
You are adaptable
You can change
You can make a change
You can feel guilt
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